Irving, or “Duke,” as he was called, was widely known in the community. A longtime member of Indian Ridge Country Club in Andover, he was past president of both the Jewish Community Center of Lawrence, and the B’nai Brith, chairman of the Board of Temple Tifereth Israel, Lawrence, and a member of Temple Emanuel of Andover, where he served on numerous committees. Following his move to Florida, he volunteered extensively in Stuart at Treasure Coast Hospice House and Books for the Blind. Over the years, he was actively engaged in numerous civic, political and social causes. He was a great believer in the importance of education and academic achievement, taking immense pride in the accomplishments of his children and grandchildren.
Despite his notable service record, for most of his life he was never particularly active in veterans’ events, feeling that it unnecessarily glorified war. A year before his death, however, he had the opportunity to take part in an Honor Flight to the World War II Memorial in Washington, D.C. He later said it was one of the most moving events of his life.
Together with his wife, he traveled extensively and was an ardent lover of music and theatre. They enjoyed a broad circle of friends and an extraordinarily rich social life. His children often joked that whenever the couple arrived at a destination, “the party would start!” He was an avid bridge player, but his biggest passions were reserved for golf, the Red Sox, Chinese food, and his family.
His sister, Marian Genensky of Santa Monica, Calif., predeceased him. He leaves his wife of 67 years, Nora; his son, Andrew Malis and daughter-in-law, Leslie Seaton Malis of Andover; and son, Stuart and daughter-in-law, Judee Malis of Lexington, Mass. He was the cherished grandfather of Jonathan Malis of Washington, D.C., and Steven Malis of Lexington. He also leaves nieces Marsha and Judy Genensky of California.